The main page with news and information

Discussion Forum

Talk to other Am I Hungry? participants or licensees.

How to Use This Site

Frequently asked questions about this site

Contact Information

Click here to find out contact information

Information about Am I Hungry?

Find a program

Type in your city, state, or other keyword below to find an Am I Hungry?® Licensee in your area.

List of Licensees




3 programs
are starting soon!

» more information

Charlene's Journal

Charlene is a journey of mindful health and self-care

A Note of Compassion to All Dieters, Including Myself
Posted on 09/12/2013 @ 10:37 AM

New insights from the Am I Hungry?® program continue to unfold for me. Not necessarily as new information (I’ve read the material multiple times), but rather as a deeper level of understanding of what I’ve learned.

For example, this week I’m feeling great compassion for dieters, past and present, including myself. I now realize the sabotaging characteristics of dieting like never before. Diet proponents preach sermons of how to be “whole” by denying ourselves the foods we love, tightly restricting our eating choices and portions, and pushing ourselves to exercise according to a predefined program, schedule, and timeline. And we try so hard because we believe them. We believe we’re not good enough until our bodies look like the ones in the pictures. We believe that being very thin is the perfect model for health. And we believe there is no other way to get there. To be fair, maybe they believe there is no other way as well.

Now I know that denying ourselves the food we love is a sure-fire way to trigger cravings. And, tightly restricting our portions and forcing ourselves to ignore our hunger is not evidence of willpower and strength, but rather the perfect way to engage our body’s protective mechanism to lower our metabolism to avoid starvation. Because, our bodies don’t know that the restrictions are self-imposed, they act as if there is a famine. Furthermore, pushing ourselves to exercise to someone else’s program is a de-motivator in the long run, can make us feel like a failure when we don’t measure up and, even worse, can cause injury, which sadly we’re sometimes encouraged to wear as badges of honor.

After all of that, we often add another layer of damage by feeling disappointment in ourselves for being weak, and hopelessness because we doubt that we’re ever going to be able to “get control” of ourselves.

But, when you’re trying to achieve the wrong goal (someone else's) and following advice that is counterproductive, as well as potentially harmful, you’re set up for failure.

So I send a big hug to Dr. May for reintroducing us to instinctive eating and for her ongoing compassion and support, and a HUGE group hug to all who have been trapped in the cycles of dieting and indulging. Then, I open my arms wide with gratitude for freedom!

Michelle May M.D.

Contact Options

By Phone:
(480) 784-7811

Main Website:

By E-Mail:

By Mail:
P.O. Box 93686
Phoenix, AZ 85070-3686

Charlene's Journal

My Perfect Weight

Emotional Stages of Saying Goodbye to Dieting

Entering a New and Wonderful Relationship

Perfectly Imperfect

Dieting Continued to Get Harder; Mindful Eating Continues to Become More Natural

100% Commitment, 100% Forgiveness

Stress, the Great Seducer

A Mindfully-Cooked Meal

How long does it take for mindful eating to become a habit?

I Love Taking My Power Back!

My Emotional Eating Experience

Creative Hopelessness

The Godfather Ate My Cake!

Our Relationship to Food is Not a Problem to Be Solved; It is a Process to be Lived

How Does Your “Little Voice” Speak to You?

Where Do I Want to Eat?

Sit. Feast on Your Life

What do you wish you’d known about dieting?

“The problem is that my behavior with food is irrational!"

The Gentle Politeness of Our Bodies

All Emotions Fit

Noticing the shift

Practicing Am I Hungry? Concepts in Other Areas of My Life

Coming to My Senses: My One-Year Anniversary with Am I Hungry?

A Note of Compassion to All Dieters, Including Myself

Follow Your Heart But Don’t Check Your Brain at the Door

Mindful Movement

Regret Over Guilt

Practicing Mindfulness

A Mindful Walk

Choosing Ease over Easy

Our 23rd Wedding Anniversary

Done with Dieting. Forever.

Fear of Hunger

Acceptance, compassion, and encouragement

Flying on autopilot

"Several “Hungry” Days Didn’t Stress Me Out!"

What Else Am I Bringing to the Table?

What do I want to eat?

Speed Bump with a Bonus

No Bad Foods, Really?

From Tunnel Vision to Total Vision

A Mindful Choice for Quality

From Redirection to Connection

Like Riding a Bike!

New Year's "Resolutions"

Merry Mindful Christmas

Curiosity is key

Fullness as an illusionary hug

Letting go of overeating and restrictive eating

Wait for it...

Thanksgiving for Thanksgiving

Hunger is the Best Seasoning

Old habits die hard

Happy Birthday to me!

Coming Home!

Am I Hungry? Member Portal

All content on this site © 2024 Michelle May, M.D. All rights reserved.
Questions / Comments / Suggestions? Click here to contact us.
Website design and development by
Ryan Heinrick MD of Heinrick Designs.
1827701 visitors since 05.31.06